The Knot

For better, for worse! Part of the marriage vow that couples take when tying the KNOT. Ordinarily, some people would want to take these simple words as mere statements and a formality in a marriage ceremony. What couples should always keep in mind is the fact that they are not signing on to a temporary contract of whatever sort, but are in fact TYING the KNOT! A knot is supposed to be stable, binding, long-term, durable, firm and steadfast! It’s unlike a long tough rope wound around a huge, uneven body, which however heavy it may be can still be unwound and taken off whatever body that it had encircled! This means that before two (or more) people decide that they want to get married, they need to understand one fundamental aspect of marriage. Marriage is not a game! It’s not a challenge where you get in just for the fun of it, hoping to win and if you lose or don’t seem to have a chance of winning, you can as well decide to throw in the towel, getup, get out, move on!

Marriage entails sacrifice and commitment, understanding and compromise. You must be ready and willing to sacrifice your personal happiness and committing to make that your top priority for the stability of marriage. Two totally different human beings coming together in a long term goal of accomplishing a mutual mission must be capable of being ready and willing to be understood and (yes!) misunderstood for who they actual are! They must equally be ready and willing to make compromises in their life long relationship in order to actualize the chances of a life-long survival of their marriage. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, abilities and disabilities, Nightmares and DREAMS! For marriage to be stable, couples have to learn to tolerate one another while at the same time giving each other enough space to grow individually and also always give room for dialog. Communication in a marriage situation is a give and take act. Marriage in dictatorship will always bear mistrust, corrode confidentiality and breed hatred! How can any meaningful relationship survive and prosper when people can no longer afford to be open and transparent with each other? As they say, “marriage is not a bed of roses”. Well, even if it were; of course roses have thorns! (Before you get your pick of roses, someone would have gotten pricked…….!)

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