The First Date

Dating should be fun, a chance to get to know each other better and gel as friends. Naturally it’s mostly a tense occasion for most people during the First Date. People tend to want to portray personalities other than themselves when they first meet new friends. This is a major mistake that ought to be avoided at all times. Remember ‘you can never be better than yourself’! Always be yourself and you’ll always come out shinning, because making an effort to please someone you barely know by trying to be somebody that you are not will eventually bring your downfall and shame! Do not go on a first date with the aim of ‘winning over’ the other person. This is not a contest nor is it a test for courage and audacity. You go out there with the aim of creating the right environment for acceptability as a friend and create the opportunity of having consequent ‘Dates’ and a lasting impression. First and foremost, you ought to be well groomed and dress appropriately. No fancy fashion or clothes that leave parts of your body that should be ‘out of sight’, revealed! Be a good listener and talk intelligently. People are naturally inclined to be very selective with their answers especially on a first Date. Always find a way of responding to queries about your personal life in a polite and straightforward manner. You should avoid being brash and trying to sound like you are meandering in your responses. You should just be honest and either give reason for not wanting to talk about a particular issue as at that point or just say you wouldn’t want to discuss that particular issue and tactfully change the subject. People will most likely understand when you are not comfortable with a certain situation and won’t want you to talk about something that you seem not ready to talk about. This is your first date and you wouldn’t want to spoil it with unnecessary issues that can be discussed in later dates as you get to know each other even better and the relationship seem to be moving to a ‘next level’. It’s important that you sit straight up and look at your ‘Date’ when speaking or being spoken to. You need to show confidence and relax in order to have a ‘tension free conversation’. Get to know the basics of each other’s background. Names, family, education, occupation, hobbies and interests, likes and dislikes, but above all make the date fun and enjoyable by engaging in meaningful conversations and avoid having an ‘interview session’. During the first date, by all means avoid a situation whereby you find your selves arguing because of differences of opinion in matters of say, politics. Matters touching on intimacy should be ‘no talk subjects’ on the first date. Always choose a neutral public place and never,  repeat never, kiss on the first date no matter how attracted you may feel to each other! A firm handshake/ ‘light hug’ are okay as welcome /goodbye gestures. At the end of the date be sure to let the other person know whether you can meet again or not. If you do not fancy another date, no need to explain why!http://bibliologics.blogspot.com